Sad, Sick And Tired
I'm a little sad today. Right, like I do anything a little bit.... (My wife calls me "Mr Lets See How Far We Can Blow Things Out Of Proportion")
Ok, I'm a hole bunch sad today.
I'm sad because a really good lifelong friend lost his son on Friday. I'm sad because I know how much my friend loved his son. I'm sad because I know it could just as easily be me that lost a son or daughter last Friday night. I am sad because there was no reason for him to die. He did nothing wrong. He didn't have a debilitating disease. He didn't have a sudden heart attack. He wasn't the victim of some unexplainable accident. I am mostly sad that he died because other people thought it was somehow ok to end his life. Bobby was murdered during a robbery in Oklahoma City.
I am sad that I live in a country where it is becoming the norm for people to lose their lives at the hands of criminals. Not because they resisted or screamed for help but because criminals now believe that the logical end to a crime is the death of the victim.
I am sick of hearing about the rights of criminal. Screw them.
I am sick of the way our society glorifies criminals and has begun accepting unacceptable actions by people designated as celebrities. And yes I am talking mostly about the Rap community. They preach violence and degrade every value that built this country. Not all Rap of course but you are judged by the company you keep as well as the silence you keep. Those that do not preach violence should stop riding the coattails of the ones that do. This is not a racial issue, and to turn it into one clouds the issue of stopping the violence.
Red and yellow, black and white, they are ALL gangsters in my sight.
I am tired of hearing about funerals. Can we have a few months without one. If we all try it might be possible.
I am tired of being the voice of the grim reaper, calling to say that someone has died.
I am tired of people looking at their caller ID, seeing my name and knowing someone has died.
I am tired of hoping that the current condition of society will change only to have those hopes crushed by a violent act that is not important enough to make the front page. We don't even report the murder of a robbery victim on the front page. What kind of society is this?
I guess I am just tired.
--------------------------------
Sorry about the funk I'm in today. I am sure our time together will return to its normal twisting and turning ADD inspired ways tomorrow.
For today please remember Bobby Standerfer, Jr. he was a husband, a father and a son, and please above all remember that he died because of what WE have allowed this society to become. We can and should do better for people like Bobby.
--------------------------------
Bobby Standerfer, Jr.
Bobby Ray Standerfer, Jr, 38, Marlow, Oklahoma, passed away Friday, November 16, 2007 in Oklahoma City.
Services will be held at 2:00 pm, Wednesday, November 21, 2007, at the Callaway-Smith-Cobb Chapel in Marlow, with Rev. Toby Walker officiating. Burial will be in the Marlow Cemetery, under the direction of Callaway-Smith-Cobb Funeral Home in Marlow.
Bobby was born Saturday, April 26, 1969 in Oklahoma City, to Bobby Ray and Linda Louise (Covington)
Standerfer. He lived in the Marlow area most of his life. He graduated from Marlow High School in 1987.
Bobby married Kimberly Jane McIntyre on December 31, 1990 in Wichita Falls, TX. He was employed by Irvin Fendley Trucking as a truck driver. He enjoyed off road racing, motorcycles, lifting weights and football.
Survivors include, Wife, Kimberly Jane Standerfer of the home; 3 Sons, Kacy Standerfer of the home of Marlow, OK, Kaleb Standerfer of the home of Marlow, OK, Tony Willeford & fiancee Miranda Milligan of Marlow, OK; Father, Bob Ray Standerfer & wife Carol of Marlow, OK; Mother, Linda Louise Standerfer of Marlow, OK; Mother-in-Law, Opal McIntyre of Marlow, OK; Brother-in-law, Odie McIntyre & wife Terrie of Norman, OK; Several Aunts, Uncles, Neices, Nephews and Cousins.
Ok, I'm a hole bunch sad today.
I'm sad because a really good lifelong friend lost his son on Friday. I'm sad because I know how much my friend loved his son. I'm sad because I know it could just as easily be me that lost a son or daughter last Friday night. I am sad because there was no reason for him to die. He did nothing wrong. He didn't have a debilitating disease. He didn't have a sudden heart attack. He wasn't the victim of some unexplainable accident. I am mostly sad that he died because other people thought it was somehow ok to end his life. Bobby was murdered during a robbery in Oklahoma City.
I am sad that I live in a country where it is becoming the norm for people to lose their lives at the hands of criminals. Not because they resisted or screamed for help but because criminals now believe that the logical end to a crime is the death of the victim.
I am sick of hearing about the rights of criminal. Screw them.
I am sick of the way our society glorifies criminals and has begun accepting unacceptable actions by people designated as celebrities. And yes I am talking mostly about the Rap community. They preach violence and degrade every value that built this country. Not all Rap of course but you are judged by the company you keep as well as the silence you keep. Those that do not preach violence should stop riding the coattails of the ones that do. This is not a racial issue, and to turn it into one clouds the issue of stopping the violence.
Red and yellow, black and white, they are ALL gangsters in my sight.
I am tired of hearing about funerals. Can we have a few months without one. If we all try it might be possible.
I am tired of being the voice of the grim reaper, calling to say that someone has died.
I am tired of people looking at their caller ID, seeing my name and knowing someone has died.
I am tired of hoping that the current condition of society will change only to have those hopes crushed by a violent act that is not important enough to make the front page. We don't even report the murder of a robbery victim on the front page. What kind of society is this?
I guess I am just tired.
--------------------------------
Sorry about the funk I'm in today. I am sure our time together will return to its normal twisting and turning ADD inspired ways tomorrow.
For today please remember Bobby Standerfer, Jr. he was a husband, a father and a son, and please above all remember that he died because of what WE have allowed this society to become. We can and should do better for people like Bobby.
--------------------------------
Bobby Standerfer, Jr.
Bobby Ray Standerfer, Jr, 38, Marlow, Oklahoma, passed away Friday, November 16, 2007 in Oklahoma City.
Services will be held at 2:00 pm, Wednesday, November 21, 2007, at the Callaway-Smith-Cobb Chapel in Marlow, with Rev. Toby Walker officiating. Burial will be in the Marlow Cemetery, under the direction of Callaway-Smith-Cobb Funeral Home in Marlow.
Bobby was born Saturday, April 26, 1969 in Oklahoma City, to Bobby Ray and Linda Louise (Covington)
Standerfer. He lived in the Marlow area most of his life. He graduated from Marlow High School in 1987.Bobby married Kimberly Jane McIntyre on December 31, 1990 in Wichita Falls, TX. He was employed by Irvin Fendley Trucking as a truck driver. He enjoyed off road racing, motorcycles, lifting weights and football.
Survivors include, Wife, Kimberly Jane Standerfer of the home; 3 Sons, Kacy Standerfer of the home of Marlow, OK, Kaleb Standerfer of the home of Marlow, OK, Tony Willeford & fiancee Miranda Milligan of Marlow, OK; Father, Bob Ray Standerfer & wife Carol of Marlow, OK; Mother, Linda Louise Standerfer of Marlow, OK; Mother-in-Law, Opal McIntyre of Marlow, OK; Brother-in-law, Odie McIntyre & wife Terrie of Norman, OK; Several Aunts, Uncles, Neices, Nephews and Cousins.
Comments